Regretting Motherhood: A StudyNorth Atlantic Books, 11.7.2017 - 272 sivua A provocative and deeply important study of women’s lives, women’s choices—and an ‘unspoken taboo’—that questions the societal pressures forcing women into motherhood Women who opt not to be mothers are frequently warned that they will regret their decision later in life, yet we rarely talk about the possibility that the opposite might also be true—that women who have children might regret it. Drawing on years of research interviewing women from a variety of socioeconomic, educational, and professional backgrounds, sociologist Orna Donath treats regret as a feminist issue: as regret marks the road not taken, we need to consider whether alternative paths for women currently are blocked off. She asks that we pay attention to what is forbidden by rules governing motherhood, time, and emotion, including the cultural assumption that motherhood is a “natural” role for women—for the sake of all women, not just those who regret becoming mothers. If we are disturbed by the idea that a woman might regret becoming a mother, Donath says, our response should not be to silence and shame these women; rather, we need to ask honest and difficult questions about how society pushes women into motherhood and why those who reconsider it are still seen as a danger to the status quo. Groundbreaking, thoughtful, and provocative, this is an especially needed book in our current political climate, as women's reproductive rights continue to be at the forefront of national debates. |
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First Page | 1 |
How Mothers Should Look Act and Feel | 29 |
If Only I Could Be Nobodys Mom | 47 |
Experiences of Motherhood and Expressions of Regret | 99 |
Regretting Motherhood between Silence and Speech | 157 |
Learning from Regret | 189 |
Epilogue | 217 |
Endnotes | 225 |
| 241 | |
About the Author | 244 |
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