CHAP. XV. OF THE RECIPROCAL DUTIES OF MAN TOWARDS HIS NEIGHBOUR; AND SPECIALLY OF PRIVATE DUTIES. THUS far we have treated of the virtues or special duties which man owes to his neighbour simply as such; we are next to consider those which originate in circumstances of particular relationship. These duties are either private or public. The private duties are partly domestic, and partly such as are exercised towards those not of our own house. Gen. xviii. 19. I know him, that he will command his children, and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of Jehovah. 1 Tim. v. 8. if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. Under domestic duties are comprehended the reciprocal obligations of husband and wife, parent and child, brethren and kinsmen, master and servant. THE DUTIES OF HUSBAND AND WIFE are mutual or personal. Mutual duties. 1 Cor. vii. 3. let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence, and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The personal duties appertaining to either party respectively are, first, those of the husband. Exod. xxi. 10, 11. her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage shall he not diminish; and if he do not these three unto Esther i. 22. I would have her, &c. Prov. v. 18, 19. rejoice with the wife of thy youth. every man should bear rule in his own house. 1 Cor. xi. 3. you know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man. Eph. v. 25. husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church. Col. iii. 19. husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. 1 Pet. iii. 7. likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel. The contrary is reproved Mal. ii. 13, 14, &c. Jehovah hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously. Prov. v. 20, 21. why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman? Personal duties of the wife. Prov. xiv. 1. every wise woman buildeth her house. xix. 14. a prudent wife is from Jehovah. xxxi. 11, &c. the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her. 1 Cor. xi..3, &c. the woman is the glory of the man; for the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man. Eph. v. 22-24. wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord; for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the Saviour of the body; therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Col. iii. 18. wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Tit. ii. 4, 5. that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 1 Pet. iii. 1, &c. likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, &c. The same is implied in the original formation of the woman: Gen. ii. 22. the rib which Jehovah had taken from man, made he a woman; it cannot therefore be fitting that a single member, and that not one of the most important, should be independent of the whole body, and even of the head. Finally, such is the express declaration of God: Gen. iii. 16. he shall rule over thee." My author and disposer, what thou bidd'st God is thy law, thou mine. Paradise Lost, IV. 635. Was 4 S Offences against these duties. Exod. iv. 25. a bloody husband art thou to me. Job ii. 9. then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? &c. integrity? &c. 2 Sam. vi. 20. Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, &c. Prov. ix. 13. a foolish woman is clamorous. vii. 11. her feet abide not in her house. xiv. 1. the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. xix. 13. the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. See also xxvii. 15. xxi. 9. it is better to divell in a corner of the house top, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. v. 19. it is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. See also xxv. 24. Eccles. vii. 26. I find more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her, but the sinner shall be taken by her. Above all, adultery: Deut. xxii. 14, 20. I took this woman, and when I came unto her, I found her not a maid ...... thing be true, &c. if this THE DUTIES OF PARENTS are inculcated Deut. iv. 9. teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons. vi. 6, 7. these words which I command thee this that indelible character See also Tetrachordon: But St. Paul ends the controversy › ‹ Nevertheless, as I find that Grotius on this place hath observed, the Christian emperors, Theodosius the second and Justinian, men of high wisdom and reputed piety, decreed it to be a divorcive fornication, if the wife attempted either against the knowledge, or obstinately against the will of her husband, such things as gave open suspicion of adulterizing, as the wilful haunting of feasts, and invitations with men not of her near kindred, the lying forth of her house without probable cause, the frequenting of theatres against her husband's mind,' &c. Doctrine and Discipline of Divorce, II. 45. day, shall be in thine heart, and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children. Prov. xiii. 24. he that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Prov. xix. 18. chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. xxii. 6. train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. v. 15. foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. xxiii. 13, 14. withhold not correction from the child; for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die: thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell. xxix. 15, 17. the rod and reproof give wisdom. Lam. iii. 27, 28. it is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth. Deut. xxi. 18-20. if a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and that when they have chastened him will not hearken unto them. Eph. vi. 4. ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Coloss. iii. 21. fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. The opposites are, first, unbounded indulgence; as that of Eli the priest, 1 Sam. ii. and of David towards his sons Absalom and Adonijah, 1 Kings i. 6. whom his father had not displeased at any time in saying, Why hast thou done so? Gen. xxv. 28. Isaac loved Esau, because he did eat of his venison. Secondly, excessive severity. 1 Sam. xiv. 44. thou shalt surely die, Jonathan. THE DUTIES OF CHILDREN are prescribed Gen. ix. 23. Shem and Japheth took a garment-. xxiv. 15, &c. with her pitcher upon her shoulder. xxix. 9. Rachel came with her father's sheep. Exod. ii. 16. they came and drew water, and filled the troughs to water their father's flock. xviii. 7. Moses went out to meet his father-in-law. xx. 12. honour thy father and thy mother. Lev. xix. 3. ye shall fear every man his mother and his father. Sam. xx. 32. Jonathan answered Saul his 1 father, and said unto him, Wherefore shall he be slain? what hath he done? 1 Kings ii. 19. Bathsheba went unto king Solomon.......and the king rose up to meet her. Prov. i. 8. my son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother. vi. 20, 21. my son, keep thy father's commandment. xxiii. 22, 24, 25. hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. Jer. xxxv. 5, 6. our father commanded us, saying. Eph. vi. 1—3. children, obey your parents in the Lord; for this is right: honour thy father, &c. Coloss. iii. 20. children, obey your parents in all things; for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. 1 Tim. v. 4. if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to show piety at home, and to requite their parents, for that is good and acceptable before God. Contrary to the above is the conduct of Ham, Gen. ix. 22. Ham saw the nakedness of his father. Exod. xxi. 15. he that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death. v. 17. he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death. See also Lev. xx. 9. Deut. xxi. 18. if a man have a stubborn and rebellious son-. xxvii. 16. cursed be he that setteth light by his father or his mother. Prov. x. 1. a wise son maketh a glad father, but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother. xix. 26. he that wasteth his father, &c. xx. 20. whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness. xxiii. 22. hearken unto thy father that begat thee-. xxviii. 24. whoso robbeth his father or his mother. xxx. 17. the eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it. Matt. xv. 5. ye say, Whosoever shall say to his father or mother, It is a gift...... and honour not his father or mother, he shall be free. See Also an extravagant and preposterous regard. me first to go and bury my father. also Mark vii. 11, 12. Matt. viii. 21, 22. suffer Analogous to the relation of parent and child are those of guardian and ward, teacher and pupil, elder and younger; in a word, of superior and inferior, whatever be the ground of distinction. |